Never using Joule again!!!

[amalthia]

I filled out a poll that asked if I had used Joule and not knowing what it was I googled the term and found the LJ related link...entered my name and got the results.

For some reason it's just better not knowing who unfriends you. normally I really don't check my userinfo for friends or not friends...and basically a few people (okay more than a few) unfriended me. I'm okay with that, I unfriend people too. but now I'm curious! Chances are their reasons are the same as mine for unfriending...not a lot of time and diverging interests...

anyway going to have to let this one go and not use Joule again because I can think of all these what if senarios and it doesn't do me any good.

Comments

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

And so I had to go try it didn't I! You're right though, it seems best not to know.

[amalthia]

lol, um this was supposed to be a warn away people post. :) but yeah I found it kind of depressing. not for some of the people because I knew they went inactive or our interests really had nothing in common...but there were one or two names that had me scratching my head wondering.

[the-muppet.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty sure I'd done it before anyway. Plus there's not much movement on my flist, so no big surprises :)

[palebluebell.livejournal.com]

Ooohhhh - that's what that is. Huh!

I got a little muddled over that question - I thought she'd spelled *journal* wrong.

If you had a lot of friends that would be a handy wee tool, I'd expect.

[amalthia]

I just think this tool can make people easily obsessed with "popularity?" Um I just don't think it's a good thing exactly. I know I didn't feel good using it. Normally, I kind of check the numbers when I scan my profile but seeing exactly who unfriends you in your list of names, I don't know it made me wonder what happened.

I think yes if you have a lot of friends it's handy because I know at at 150...and even 100 it's hard to see all the names and find out who's friending/unfriending. I imagine it's even worse at 800 or 1000, which is what i've seen on some people's journals.

I think this just surprised me in the sense that I hadn't realized I cared if people unfriended me until I actually saw some of the names.

[palebluebell.livejournal.com]

I must admit when I saw the program I couldn't help but tap my name into it, even though I knew perfectly well how my friend-list stood. I thought it had the feel of a set of scales - where you get on every morning and have a good day if you've lost weight and curl up in misery if you've gained. Only this would be the the other way around - and you'd be forever wondering why you were de-friended - even if it was just because someone was cleaning up their friend-list without a thought to you personally - it would still feel bad. I think you're quite right and it would be better, if possible, to ignore such things.